Welcome to
The Haven
A 12-week online program with Doula support, birth education and a safe space for expecting mothers after loss
Next Cohort Launches JUNE 3RD
“Kristin,
I watched the dream your dream birth activity 10x and I cried. Your voice is so reassuring and comforting. No one has ever given me permission to dream again, so thank you. I really needed to hear it.”
Inside The Haven
12-weeks of confidential 1-on-1 Doula support whenever you need it
An online birth education course to prepare you on your journey
A one-of-a-kind sisterhood where you are safe to be seen and heard
You do not have to go through YOUR pregnancy after loss alone
Pregnancy is supposed to be a time of excitement – of looking forward to a blissful future. But what if you already know that a positive pregnancy test doesn’t always guarantee a baby in your arms? Being pregnant after loss can come with uncertainty and fear, often overriding the joy you should be experiencing.
If you are pregnant again
after experiencing pregnancy or infant loss, this probably feels familiar…
You feel crippling anxiety, fear and knots in your stomach – intrusive thoughts that whisper “what if this happens again?”
Some days you feel happy and excited, other days guilty and terrified – you find yourself on an emotional rollercoaster as you relive the grief and trauma of losing your baby again and again
Doctors appointments and ultrasounds should be something to look forward to – but instead you find yourself terrified to hear the words ‘there’s no heartbeat’
You feel powerless, like you have no sense of control – leaving you feeling ungrounded, just waiting for the other shoe to drop
You struggle to connect with your baby – afraid that if you get too close, or you fall too deeply in love, you risk having your heart broken all over again
You feel isolated in your pregnancy – even if you have a therapist or dedicated partner, this is an experience other people just don’t get
Mama, my heart goes out to you, But I WANT YOU TO KNOW..
You are not alone
1 in 4 pregnancies end in miscarriage
1 in 160 babies are stillborn
50-80% of women who experience perinatal loss become pregnant again within 12 – 18 months
There are literally hundreds of thousands of women who are going through exactly what you are.
And yet the world carries, on pretending that pregnancy after loss is no different.
The truth is…
Pregnancy after loss is a very different experience than your typical pregnancy. It is riddled with complicated emotions, trauma and grief – all while you’re trying to balance the hope and fear of growing a new little life inside of your womb.
The birth of the haven
Kristin’s Story
Throughout my journey to motherhood, I lost 4 little ones, including my daughter Vienna and son William, before I carried my first living daughter home with me.
Each pregnancy after my first loss was an emotional rollercoaster. What was meant to be a beautiful, pivotal time in my life, had also quickly became an incredibly stress-ridden and isolating experience – filled with the highest of highs, and also the lowest of lows. You would expect the anxiety to decrease the further I got in my pregnancy, but unfortunately… it only intensified. The risk of another heartbreak was high.
As a Doula, I expected to be prepared for the complicated emotions of pregnancy and birth – and yet I was totally taken off guard by how completely alone I felt – and how few resources exist to support and care for someone who is pregnant after loss.
After the moment I thought would never come, and I finally held my daughter Sena safely in my arms – I made a promise to myself that I would do whatever it takes to make sure no other mother had to go through what I did, all alone.
DEAR MAMA
What if you could feel supported, seen and held throughout your pregnancy? What if you had a space where you could hope and dream despite everything you’ve been through?
The Haven
A 12-week online program with Doula support, birth education and a safe space for expecting mothers after loss
Sometimes after a storm comes a rainbow
The Haven is my rainbow; a pregnancy support program created especially for loss moms – by a loss mom.
A safe place to go and belong, and to be seen by other moms who understand the courageous journey that is pregnancy after loss. A confidential place where you do not ever have to feel alone in your pregnancy ever again.
The Haven is…
A 12-week virtual program with 1 on 1, heart-centered Doula support, weekly online workshops, a 12-module trauma informed birth education course, and an inclusive community of likeminded women who are experiencing pregnancy after loss like you.
Each week, we will meet virtually for one of a kind, PAL specific teaching workshops, have an opportunity to ask questions (and get answers), learn from guest speakers and share our stories – so you can feel empowered, connected and validated throughout your pregnancy.
This is for you if…
You are currently pregnant after experiencing pregnancy loss, stillbirth, TFMR or infant loss
You are looking for real time, 1 on 1 support during the moments you really need it
You want to feel understood by other women who know what loss and pregnancy after loss is like
You want to have a more empowered birth that feels comfortable, safe and full of love
You would like to deepen the connection you have with your baby
You want to learn about pregnancy, birth and postpartum on your own timeline and in the comfort of your home
You want to confidently advocate for yourself and your baby throughout pregnancy and birth
You want to prepare for a gentle and restful postpartum
You wish to learn how to best cope with fear and triggers throughout your pregnancy
You want to be able to speak freely about your experience and your loss or baby without guilt or use of trigger warnings
After loss, it’s scary to dream.
But you are here because you are courageous enough to follow that tug – that heart string that tells you there is a little one waiting for you.
Imagine if…
You weren’t alone in your moments of struggle – you could pick up your phone and share a text or voice note with other women like you, knowing you’d be met with love, understanding and compassion
You had a Doula in your back pocket, who gets it – someone who could hold space and answer all your questions whenever they came up, no matter how big or small
Your pregnancy didn’t have to feel like a terrifying thing – you could hope, you could feel grounded, you could feel peaceful (and even excited too)
You could talk about being a mother and your angel-baby freely – without the constant toxic positivity or invalidation from well-meaning friends and family
You could confidently advocate for you and your baby’s needs – feeling calm and secure, while still speaking with conviction, knowing your experience and concerns are valid and understandable
You had tools at hand to help you through your most difficult times – and a community to celebrate and honour the milestones along the way
In The Haven…
Here’s what’s included in The Haven
Safety comes from feeling informed, supported and connected to others who understand what you’re going through. That’s why The Haven is built on 3 pillars, united under one roof.
Doula Support
Birth Education
Community
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Different types of care and preparation, balancing hope and fear, support after loss, affirmations, breathwork, EFT and advocacy
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All the anatomical things you need to know: uterus, pelvis, umbilical cord, placenta and more
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All the ways you can prepare yourself in pregnancy for a super birth: nutrition, diet, sleep, managing nausea, heartburn, body pain, movement, sex, practitioners you may need, etc
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The power of oxytocin, fight or flight and dreaming up your ideal birth
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Coping versus surviving, creating your ‘den,’ comfort techniques, medical pain management, epidurals
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Plan versus preferences, induction, cesarean, home birth, hospital birth, waterbirth, multiples, VBAC, breech presentations
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Finding purpose in the pain, coping with emotions and grief, early labour, labour positions, active labour, labour stalling, transitions
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The power of your breath, tearing, pushing positions, delayed cord clamping, skin to skin
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What happens when delivering the placenta and what to expect, keeping your placenta and encapsulation
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The ‘golden hour,’ newborn exams, what to expect, boundaries
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Baby’s first days, mommy’s first days, circumcision, baby blues versus post partum depression, helpful care providers, unpacking and processing the birth
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The first days, latching, when to seek support, formula, bottle feeding, pumping, recommended products
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A new kind of grief, inviting support, making room for joy and sadness, honouring the baby(ies) that brought you here, boundaries
Birth Education
A 12 module, at your own pace, birth education course that will go over everything you need to know to get ready for your birth, support your pregnancy and prepare for postpartum, with trauma-informed care in mind. Over the course of the program, you’ll work through the Birth Education Course on your own time – with lifetime access so you can return to the material again and again.
Doula Support
1 on 1 a-sync (voice, text, video) support and personal coaching through your pregnancy. Ask questions, receive evidence based support in real time when you need it most, and know your fears, emotions and experiences are valid and understood by a Doula who has been through what you have.
Community
Connection through a community of other PAL mothers who actually understand what you are going through. Weekly guided workshops, Q&A, support chat and sharing opportunities alongside holistic supportive practices. This community will be the space you get to show up as your full self, messy emotions, grief, trauma and all. Fully confidential.
Support Vault
A ton of templates, checklists, activations, meditations and materials to support your emotional, mental, physical and spiritual wellbeing during your pregnancy, birth and postpartum.
Workshops & Guests
Our workshops cover different topics curated for the group at hand. In the past, we’ve covered topics like establishing boundaries, designing your birth preferences, how to move through fear, EFT techniques and so much more.
The Haven was created to help empower women to have a more grounded, supported pregnancy and birth experience– where you can be understood, seen, and never alone.
Because you deserve to have a beautiful, empowered pregnancy and birth especially after loss.
This is not for you if…
This is your first pregnancy
You’ve never experienced pregnancy or infant loss
If you don’t identify as a mother or someone who was affected by your loss
You are not pregnant
What people are saying about The Haven
I am feeling very supported and blessed to have connected with you and the others in The Haven.
Before signing up for this course I felt hesitant to go to in person birth classes because of my prior TFMR loss experience and I feel like The Haven PAL program is exactly what i was needing / looking for in this unique experience and I have not felt uncomfortable at all. I’ve felt very supported and appreciate the check ins and variety of ways we can connect including course, workshops, group chat, and 1:1 chat. Thank you for creating this space.
The Investment
3 monthly payments of
$347
1 on 1 Doula Support
12 weeks of 1-on-1 Doula Support
12-module birth education course with special trauma informed modules
The Support Vault
Daily access to a community of other PAL women
12 Workshops
Free Month to The Haven Membership
3 monthly payments of
$997
1 on 1 Doula Support
12 weeks of 1-on-1 Doula Support
12-module birth education course with special trauma informed modules
The Support Vault
Daily access to a community of other PAL women
12 Workshops
Free Month to The Haven Membership
Okay Kristin, this sounds amazing but – I have a therapist already…
And so do I! I think therapy is great and does wonders. But unless your therapist has actually gone through what you have and is also a doula, they won’t be able to support you in this very specific way. With The Haven, you will have 1-on-1 support with a Doula (me) who has lost several babies of her own before bringing my earthbaby Sena into the world. I understand this pain and grief and overwhelm intimately. I know the highs and lows of PAL. Which is why I am equipped to help you move through this.
I don’t really have time for this…
Our group meets once a week for 60-75 minutes. All of the calls are recorded, so many of the mamas with other little ones or busy lifestyles can review the material and conversations on their own time. The birth course is also a totally at your own pace curriculum you can watch through on your own.
Is this really worth the investment?
A better question to ask yourself is what will NOT feeling supported cost you? Look, I totally understand that this program isn’t cheap. But your pregnancy experience will quite literally set the stage for how you move forward into this next phase of your life – bringing your baby home after your loss. I am honoured to support you in this process, and facilitate the container where you can be seen and heard. A redemptive birth and postpartum experience is possible. The Haven will support you getting there.
Risk-Free Guarantee
We’ve had such great feedback on The Haven, we are confident enough to offer a 7-day money back guarantee. Attend the first live call and if this doesn’t feel right for you, we’ll give you a refund. *
Mama,
You are here because your desire is greater than your fear.
It takes so much courage to follow your heart – to listen to that little voice inside telling you there is someone waiting for you on the other side of that fear. But you’re here because you’re brave enough to do it despite your loss.
Find sanctuary in The Haven.
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** The Haven Support**
The Haven’s bigger mission is to provide access to PAL support for women – which is why we have financial support available for specific cases. If you are concerned about the investment, please contact us directly.
Still have questions?
Please reach out with any questions you may have, or to book a free 15 minute discovery call with Kristin
