“We Were Expecting Three” — Elle Margetson on Losing Her Triplets and the Journey to Her Rainbow Baby
Elle Margetson shares the story of her triplets — a pregnancy that began with surprise and quickly became something much bigger than she ever imagined. After conceiving with the help of medication, Elle discovered she was carrying three babies — a moment that shifted everything.
But as her pregnancy progressed, complications arose, and she was faced with infection, medical dismissal, and ultimately premature labour. Her babies were born far too soon — each one alive, each one deeply loved — and each one lost in the days that followed in the NICU.
In this episode, we talk about pregnancy loss, neonatal loss, and what it means to become a mother in the midst of unimaginable grief. We also talk about pregnancy after loss, postpartum mental health, and the complex journey of welcoming a rainbow baby while still carrying the love for the babies who came before.
We talk about:
Conceiving after infertility and PCOS
Discovering a triplet pregnancy
Medical gaslighting and infection during pregnancy
Premature birth and NICU experiences
Losing each of her babies after birth
Grief and identity in motherhood after loss
Pregnancy after loss and the fear that comes with it
Postpartum anxiety and mental health after bringing a baby home
Finding purpose through supporting other loss moms
Holding grief and hope at the same time
This episode is a reminder that grief and love do not exist separately — they live side by side, shaping the way we move forward.
Get to Know Elle:
Elle Margetson is a grief therapist, loss mom, and the creator of The Loss Mama Method. After losing her triplets following premature birth in 2021, Elle turned her experience into a mission to support other women navigating pregnancy loss, neonatal loss, and motherhood after loss. Through her work in Superconscious Grief Therapy, she helps mothers release guilt, calm overwhelm, and reconnect with themselves. Based in the UK, Elle has supported over 120 loss moms worldwide — offering a space where healing and remembrance can exist together.
Instagram: @elle.hypnotherapy
